Hallo zusammen,

nun sind wir bereits einige Tage wieder zurück und haben einiges erlebt. Wie es uns dabei ergeht hätten wir mit dem unten aufgeführten Artikel nicht besser ausdrücken können:

Wem geht es genauso und was habt ihr dagegen getan?

You see the world, try new things, meet new people, fall in love, visit amazing places, learn about other cultures – then it’s all over. People always talk about leaving, but what about coming home?

We talk about the hard parts while we’re away – finding jobs, making real friends, staying safe, learning social norms, misreading people you think you can trust – but these are all parts you get through. All of these lows are erased by the complete highs you experience. The goodbyes are difficult but you know they are coming, especially when you take the final step of purchasing your plane ticket home. All of these sad goodbyes are bolstered by the reunion with your family and friends you have pictured in your head since leaving in the first place.

Then you return home, have your reunions, spend your first two weeks meeting with family and friends, catch up, tell stories, reminisce, etc. You’re Hollywood for the first few weeks back and it’s all new and exciting. And then it all just…goes away. Everyone gets used to you being home, you’re not the new shiny object anymore and the questions start coming: So do you have a job yet? What’s your plan? Are you dating anyone?

But the sad part is once you’ve done your obligatory visits for being away for a year; you’re sitting in your childhood bedroom and realize nothing has changed. You’re glad everyone is happy and healthy and yes, people have gotten new jobs, boyfriends, engagements, etc., but part of you is screaming don’t you understand how much I have changed? And I don’t mean hair, weight, dress or anything else that has to do with appearance. I mean what’s going on inside of your head. The way your dreams have changed, they way you perceive people differently, the habits you’re happy you lost, the new things that are important to you. You want everyone to recognize this and you want to share and discuss it, but there’s no way to describe the way your spirit evolves when you leave everything you know behind and force yourself to use your brain in a real capacity, not on a written test in school. You know you’re thinking differently because you experience it every second of every day inside your head, but how do you communicate that to others?

You feel angry. You feel lost. You have moments where you feel like it wasn’t worth it because nothing has changed but then you feel like it’s the only thing you’ve done that is important because it changed everything. What is the solution to this side of traveling? It’s like learning a foreign language that no one around you speaks so there is no way to communicate to them how you really feel.

This is why once you’ve traveled for the first time all you want to do is leave again. They call it the travel bug, but really it’s the effort to return to a place where you are surrounded by people who speak the same language as you. Not English or Spanish or Mandarin or Portuguese, but that language where others know what it’s like to leave, change, grow, experience, learn, then go home again and feel more lost in your hometown then you did in the most foreign place you visited.

This is the hardest part about traveling, and it’s the very reason why we all run away again.


  1. Wow, the way you describe your feelings really touched me! Just a few weeks ago I had the same feelings. I felt lost and uprooted. Even spending time with my family and friends didn’t help to know where I belong to. No one could understand but how could they? You have to go through the world with open eyes being curious and interested in different cultures, our nature, animals and just in every human being. Not only being open minded and living and enjoying consciously every moment in life but also appreciating health, family and friends! And now ask yourself, how many people do you know thinking the way we do? You experienced different cultures who have less materialistic stuff in their life and it’s not important for them to have money, a big house and a big car and a successful job but they are pure hearted and very loving! They take care of each other and they are happier and more grateful than many others. And you are impressed by such a wonderful spirit and positive attitude because that makes sense in life, it’s all about love!!
    So I understand that you are starting to reflect your life and that’s good!
    My family and my friends do love me but sometimes they don’t understand my decisions or way of thinking, so what? It’s my life and I can promise to you, I’ve never regretted being courageous or deciding crazy things because you feel alive and the powerful energy ! Just keep a positive attitude and don’t put you under pressure!
    You have time to plan your life and work out a strategy to fulfil your dream whatever that will be in future!
    My dream is one day living in Madeira in a small little house surrounded by very nice people and just enjoying the sea and the sunsets every day:-)
    So what did help me to discipline myself coming back into the routine because being responsible for two kids?
    I keep contact to my new friends at Madeira and I still feel connected ! I spend time with my sons in nature to see that there are nice places in Germany as well. I travel to Madeira next year again so I look forward to it and I try to learn a little bit Portuguese 🙂 Starting a new job means change in my life as well.

    So, be courageous to change your life in small steps, no rush but a good strategy! Even if that could mean you leaving your family, friends and the comfortable life here, so what? You’re young and you’re just responsible for your own life! Collect some experience and if you want to return one day, you can do that !

    I am sure you can only win with your open minded spirit now! Good luck and all the best for you whatever you decide to do in future!
    Yours Cynthia


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